quotes by Victorians about the 1920s view of their generation’s women
“We are frequently told that the Victorian woman…generally behaved like a pampered and neurotic infant. This is all moonshine. I do not think that I ever saw a woman faint before I came to London in 1869, and not often after then…they enjoyed a hearty laugh, and a good many of them a contest of wits with any man.” -Nineteenth Century, a Monthly Review, 1927 (written by a man born in 1850)
“What queer ideas the girl of 1929 has about the Victorian period- they are not a bit true…Marriage was by no means the end and aim of our existence. Oxford and Cambridge claimed quite a few of us after school days were over. We had great ideas about ‘life’ and what it all might mean to us.” -St. Petersburg Times, 1929 (written by a woman born in 1853)
“True, debutantes were chaperoned at balls. But that fact did not prevent them from dancing as frequently as they chose with their favorite partners. The idea that girls in the Victorian era spent their days sewing seams and practicing scales is another fallacy.” -Gettysburg Times, July 1, 1927 (quote from the Dowager Lady Raglan, Ethel Jemima Somerset, who lived from 1857 to 1940)
[O]ne thing that has helped me weed out a lot of companies that later turned out to be toxic is to ask much more specific, STAR type questions of the interviewers: -What is your leadership philosophy? What do you think a good leader should do for their team? What is your preferred communication style? How often do you have one-on-ones with your employees? (I listen to see if this aligns with how I like to be managed) -Can you describe your best employee, what does she do that makes her so successful? (red flag: she works really hard and never calls out, always goes the extra mile for me) -What personality traits would make someone NOT do well here? (I’ve literally heard ‘easily offended’ as an answer to this one – RED FLAG) -How does the team manage emergencies? (I’m looking for ‘we help each other out’ without verging into ‘like a family’ territory) -How many hours a week do you usually work? Does your team usually work? (try to get specifics here) -Do employees hang out with each other outside of work? Do you have lots of pot luck type events? -What happens when someone makes a mistake?
Saying “Fuck it” actually motivates me more than “You can do this”.
Because saying “fuck it” includes the total acceptance of failure as the outcome, meanwhile “you can do this” focuses only on the hopes of a successful outcome and the lack of acknowledgement of the equally probable failure outcome induces a certain level of unspoken anxiety
“…the Way of the Warrior is resolute acceptance of death.”
